Parents should have an understanding of the psychological characteristics of adolescents as they enter the age of adolescent love and provide them with the insights and skills needed to maintain and Assess the friendship – love relationship of this age.
Most of students at the end of their high school years have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex. And this relationship contributes to the comprehensive development. The benefits of friendship are:
Strengthening self-confidence: Being friends of the same age, loving, helping and making friends is very important for adolescents, especially the friends of the opposite sex, which is also appreciated by others. self-confidence, from which they also believe in their success in social life.
Improve Social Communication Skills: Dating, meeting with friends of opposite sex creates opportunities for children to learn how to behave and socialize.
Confirmation of gender identity and role: Also important, men and women often want to have the opportunity to experience their gender identity and roles. The expressions of masculinity and femininity are expressed how to fit the expectations of society.
Developing skills for harmony: Harmony is essential in all relationships, from friendship, love, conjugal love to parenthood – children. Lack of harmony leads to negative psychology (feeling helpless, lost in the crowd, reduced confidence). Confidence, interest in you and sharing with you are important skills that need to be educated, practiced for harmony.
Understanding Psychological Characteristics and Personal Needs: Some people prefer to live in privacy rather than in a noisy life. Some people like to be praised and motivated.
In heterosexual relationships, there are many qualities that need to be revealed early, such as sincerity, restraint and respect for restraint of the opposite sex, the idea of an ideal life. .
However, adolescence with the first heterosexual relationships may also be affected by negative effects: for example, failure in early relationships can lead to decreased self-esteem. Adversely influenced by friends, transforming gender roles has emerged from the process of family education. However, school-age love is considered to have positive effects.
To make love, the love of healthy adolescents develops well, the relationship between parents and children needs to be open, giving the opportunity to talk frankly about some related issues. Proper behaviors, things to avoid; distinguish personal qualities good and not good, the expression is not sincere …
Life creates so many different and richer relationships over time: with brothers and sisters, parents in the family, with friends, with teachers at school, with lovers, with colleagues in Work and sometimes there are no relationships can be classified in any kind. In many situations, we can receive something that makes us more confident, happier and more mature, which are the circumstances that create a positive relationship.
In many other situations, we find ourselves in a difficult situation. Sometimes it is not easy to see that a lover or friend or family member treats them unrespectfully and unfairly. Every relationship can have some dissatisfaction, tolerance and even frustration, especially in youth, anger, misunderstanding each other is also a “characteristic” of this age.
Only that does not necessarily mean that the relationship is unhealthy. However, in the relationship between men and women in adolescence, there are also many mistakes, misunderstandings, idolizing you or your lover, from which imitate, blindly race.
It is necessary for young men and women to know what is right and wrong in relation to one another. There are expressions that need to be seen as the “spring swallows”, soon to reveal a well-developed personality, promising a lasting friendship and love.
A relationship is considered healthy when there are the following key manifestations: to behave respectfully; feeling secure, comfortable and happy together; to resolve conflicts smoothly; Helping and caring about each other’s lives (health, work …); trust each other; open, straightforward, generous; each person respects one another’s privacy; not addicted to drugs or alcohol. Together we set the limits of emotion, practice restraint.