The best tips on learning effective parenting skills (part 4)

7. Pay Attention To Yourself

Parents need relief, too. So pay attention to your own well-being. Take good care of yourself is also good parenting skills.

When a child is born, things such as your own health or the health of your marriage are sometimes kept on the back burner. If you don’t pay attention to these things, they will become bigger problems in long-term run​​. Therefore, take time to strengthen your relationship with your spouse.

Ask for parenting help whenever you need. Having some “me time” for yourself is important to rejuvenate the mind.

How parents take care of themselves will make a big difference in their parenting, both physically and mentally. If these two areas fail, your child will also suffer.

8. Do Not Spank, No Matter What

It can be said with no doubt, spanking can bring to some parents short-term compliance which sometimes is a much-needed relief for them.

However, this method doesn’t teach their kids right from wrong. It only teaches the kids to fear external consequences and then they are motivated to avoid getting caught instead. Spanking your kids is modeling to them that they can resolve problems by using violence​​.

Children who are spanked, hit, or smacked are more prone to fighting with other children such as their friends or brothers/sisters. They are more likely to become bullies and to use verbal and physical aggression to solve disputes. In long term, they are also more likely to result in delinquency and antisocial behavior, mental health issues, worse parent-child relationships, and domestic violence victims or abusers​​.

There are many better alternatives to discipline that have been proven to be more effective, such as Positive Discipline (has been mentioned in Part 2) and positive reinforcement, which is adding a pleasant stimulus to enhance a behavior.