The daily issues are the agents that lead to arguments between children and parents, but also create opportunities to nurture independence. Your puberty child may think he or she is allowed to do something (dating) just because he or she is old enough, or simply because you all do it, but your child lack of skills to control the situation. If you focus on equipping your child with the necessary knowledge, you will turn conflicts and conflicts into opportunities for them to practice new skills and show their sense of responsibility to themselves.
Puberty will naturally have many opportunities to test new things, will make mistakes and eventually succeed. What you need to do is make sure your child learns from the mistakes instead of criticizing them. At the same time, you must be careful to help your child avoid mistakes that cannot be overcome or harm others. And equally important, make sure your child doesn’t miss future growth opportunities.
When is your child ready to face new challenges?
And the answer to this question is when you realize your child has all the necessary things to not make mistakes (or minimize the risk of mistakes). When your 14-year-old child asks permission to hang out with friends in a big shopping center, you won’t have to ask yourself questions like, “Are you old enough to go?”, Because you have Teach your children how to spend smartly and treat them with courtesy. The day when your child starts to ride electric bicycles to school will be much easier if you have previously taught your child how to safely ride a car and turn on the vehicle and watch the traffic before crossing the road.
Sometimes you should start by looking around under your eyes for a bit. Put yourself in your shoes, ask yourself: “If I were a child, what would I do?”. You can watch the mall as a place to shop, but maybe your child thinks it’s a place to have fun, eat, hang out with friends. Observe the path you take from your child’s point of view, which will help you predict the difficulties you may face. Put yourself in your position to think about how you should monitor and support your child so that everything is smooth.
It is important to slowly guide your child to help them express their sense of responsibility. So, you can not only be able to teach children independently, but also to control them, not to make them feel bound.