Dutch Parenting methods to teach a happy child

  1. Children are guaranteed sleep
    In 2013, the study of the Journal of European Development Psychology pointed out that Dutch children tend to laugh and like to cuddle more than American children.

According to the study, the gentleness of Dutch babies is partly because they get enough sleep and work at low intensity. While American parents often emphasize the importance of experience for young children.

On the other hand, Dutch parents also place the importance of adequate rest. Parents will not compromise on rest time. Only when the child gets enough sleep can parents get better rest.

Research has shown that the Dutch sleep the most in the world, averaging about 8 hours per night.

2. Children have plenty of time with their parents
Since 1996, the Dutch Government has always tried to ensure benefits for part-time employees and full-time employees, to help people balance work and life.

According to the OECD study of 2018, part-time culture is one of the reasons why people here are happier. With an average working time of 29 hours a week, the Netherlands has the shortest working week in the world.

Nearly half of adults in the Netherlands work part-time. 26.8% of men work less than 36 hours / week and 75% of women work part-time. Most Dutch fathers only work full time for four days. They spend at least one day a week to spend time with their children.

3. Children are not under pressure to study
In the Netherlands, children do not suffer from achievement. Education is not only a place to help children develop comprehensively physically and intellectually, but also a place that makes them feel happy.

There are two types of Dutch higher education qualifications: Research-oriented degrees, offered by universities; Career-oriented qualifications, offered by colleges. Students only need to pass the high school exam to enroll in most study programs.

Ruut Veenhoven, professor at Erasmus University (Rotterdam), said: “French and English schools often focus on achievement. But our research has shown that social skills are the tools that bring happiness. They are far more important than IQ.

4. Children are encouraged to express their own opinions

Children are free to express what they want, under the guidance of their parents.
Everyone in the family, including young children, has a voice. For example, when Julius was three, the boy developed full language skills to express what was important. After that, adults will teach you reasonable solutions.

Let your children say everything they think and want, sometimes making them tired. But that way, the Dutch taught them how to set their own boundaries. Along with that, the parents will also give the child advice, explain why should do so. As simple as why the child needs to sleep early? Because getting enough sleep will help them grow up as healthy as others.

Teaching children good manners

Teaching children good manners

Assisting children learn appropriate and polite behavior enables them develop good manners and become more responsible people as they get older. It is much easier to cultivate good behavior in your child if you work as a family to set the rules for good manners in many different situations.

There are a lot of benefits accrued for teaching your child good manners. Every parent will definitely be happy to hear from other parents, and teachers, how polite their children are.

How can parents raise children to be polite?

Model good behavior

At home, parents must model good behavior for your children to follow. This is so important because children easily emulate the behavior of their parents

Always say “please” and “thank you” whenever necessary and encourage your children to do so too. Everyone feels good when they are thanked, even for the smallest of things.

Be Patient

Be very patients with your children about this. This may take a while before it could sink it, especially when this is new in the family. But with gentle and continuous corrections, the results will be worthwhile.

It may require you to put in more months of efforts to make that change, but once you hear your family speaking kindly to one another out of habit, it will surely change the family for the better.

Teach gratitude

Teaching your children manners is more than just words. Gratitude and politeness are obviously a valued features in our culture.

Without such expressions of gratitude, your children may become self-centered and may take for granted all that they have. People who use “please” and “thank you” regularly are regarded as gracious and thoughtful. These two characteristics are admirable in every individual.

Start Early

Start early by inculcating the fundamentals of good manners in your children.

When parents teach appropriate table manners, like no elbows on the table and saying, ‘Please pass the sugar,’ children will consequently learn them and use them too.

Continue as your children grow

For the grown up children, good manners is knowing what to say when someone gives them a gift—even before they open it, what to say when they are introduced to a new person, or how to answer the phone rightly.

If these continues, the child will become accustomed to them and a remainder won’t be needed and less guidance will be required.

Always remember to acknowledge them whenever they use proper manners because they will repeat the behavior you notice.